17 books to read to experience the broad spectrum of love

Because love is wonderfully diverse

and  February is LGBT History Month!

Romantic Love between couples is usually the first thing that comes to mind when we hear the word Love. However, there are other kinds to love that are as much or even more fulfilling. Canadian psychologist John Alan Lee’s “Color Wheel Theory of Love” describes six styles of love, using several of the Greek words for love.

Primary Types of Love

  • Eros
  • Ludos
  • Storge

Secondary Types of Love

  • Mania
  • Pragma
  • Agape

Primary Types of Love

Eros

A passionate physical and emotional love of wanting to satisfy, create sexual contentment, security and aesthetic enjoyment for each other, It is a highly sensual, intense, passionate style of love. Erotic lovers choose their lovers by intuition or “chemistry.” They are more likely to say they fell in love at first sight than those of other love styles. [source]

And since we are talking about sexuality and February is LGBT History Month in the United Kingdom…

Let’s talk about sexual orientation/gender identification!

LGBT History Month is a month-long annual observance of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender history, and the history of the gay rights and related civil rights movements. LGBT History Month provides role models, builds community, and makes the civil rights statement about our extraordinary national and international contributions. Currently, LGBT History Month is a month-long celebration that is specific to the United States, and the United Kingdom. In the United States, it is celebrated in October to coincide with National Coming Out Day on October 11. In the United Kingdom, it is observed during February, to coincide with a major celebration of the 2003 abolition of Section 28. In Berlin, It is known as Queer History Month. Other LGBT-progressive countries, however, celebrate LGBT History with much shorter events. [source]

Understanding sexual orientation/gender identification as a spectrum (as opposed to Sexuality Binaries) is much more inclusive since it accounts for variations in human sexuality, which can change even in a person’s lifetime, (known as Sexual Fluidity) and reduces the use of labels which are often hurtful and filled with misconception. However, I wanted to add some of the common terms or labels used when talking about human sexuality:

  • Heterosexuality: The attraction of a person to only people of the opposite gender. This is commonly labelled as “straight”.
  • Bisexuality: The attraction of a person to two or more genders. Usually, but not necessarily, both female and male. Attraction to each gender is not necessarily always equal.
  • Homosexuality:The attraction of a person to only people of the same gender. There are different labels for males and females who identify with this term.
  • Gay: Males with an attraction to only the same gender. Also often used to generalize attraction of one gender to other people of the same gender.
  • Lesbian: Females with an attraction to only the same gender.
  • Queer: Umbrella term that fits all people who have non-heterosexual attractions.
  • Asexual: Someone who has very little to no sexual attraction towards any particular gender or group.
  • Aromantic: Someone who does not experience romantic love or attraction.
  • Pansexual: Someone who is attracted to people regardless of their gender, attraction to all genders. Can also be known as omnisexual.
  • Polysexual: Someone who is attracted to more than one gender and/or form of gender expression, but not all.
  • Demisexual: Someone who only feels sexually attracted to those who they have made a strong, emotional connection with.
  • Sapiosexual: Someone who only feels sexually attracted to those they are intellectually attracted to.
    [source]
  • Genderqueer: Also termed non-binary, is a catch-all category for gender identities that are not exclusively masculine or feminine—identities which are outside the gender binary and cisnormativity. Genderqueer people may express a combination of masculinity and femininity, or neither, in their gender expression. Genderqueer people may identify as either having an overlap of, or indefinite lines between, gender identity; having two or more genders (being bigender, trigender, or pangender); having no gender (being agender, nongendered, genderless, genderfree or neutrois); moving between genders or having a fluctuating gender identity (genderfluid); or being third gender or other-gendered, a category which includes those who do not place a name to their gender. Gender identity is separate from sexual or romantic orientation, and genderqueer people have a variety of sexual orientations, just as transgender and cisgender people do. [source]

Update

A note from Cee @ Dora Reads [in the comments]:

Queer covers transgender people, non-binary people, and other gender identities as well

From a Bookworm’s point of view what is probably the most important issue about human sexuality is REPRESENTATION in literature. Especially normalized and casual representation. That we all feel normally, accurately and respectfully represented in books. So, even though we don’t want to draw divisions among us [also discussed in this post about Black History Month] some of us feel they are necessary to encourage or demand representation until it reaches a point of acceptable equality.

So, let’s talk!

What is you personal point of view about representation for ALL the spectrum of human sexuality?

Do you consider everyone is equally represented?

I don’t think so!

So, today we are promoting books with characters in those areas of the spectrum that don’t get as much representation as I would like to see!
Here is when those labels become a handy tool. We can use them to demand more books with character of a specific sexual orientation!

Some of my favorite gender and sexuality diverse books are:

The Color Purple, by Alice Walker

The Main character, Celie, is bisexual black woman growing up in rural Georgia in the 1930s. There are very few diversity/equality topics this book doesn’t address! [Review to come soon!]

The Color Purple is a classic. With over a million copies sold in the UK alone, it is hailed as one of the all-time ‘greats’ of literature, inspiring generations of readers.
Set in the deep American South between the wars, it is the tale of Celie, a young black girl born into poverty and segregation. Raped repeatedly by the man she calls ‘father’, she has two children taken away from her, is separated from her beloved sister Nettie and is trapped into an ugly marriage. But then she meets the glamorous Shug Avery, singer and magic-maker – a woman who has taken charge of her own destiny. Gradually, Celie discovers the power and joy of her own spirit, freeing her from her past and reuniting her with those she loves.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Things I Should Have Known, by Claire LaZebnik

This is another diversity gem. An own-voices love story with a lesbian character that is also autistic [Read my full review here].

Things Chloe knew: Her sister, Ivy, was lonely. Ethan was a perfect match. Ethan’s brother, David, was an arrogant jerk.
Things Chloe should have known: Setups are complicated. Ivy can make her own decisions. David may be the only person who really gets Chloe.
Meet Chloe Mitchell, a popular Los Angeles girl who’s decided that her older sister, Ivy, who’s on the autism spectrum, could use a boyfriend. Chloe already has someone in mind: Ethan Fields, a sweet, movie-obsessed boy from Ivy’s special needs class.
Chloe would like to ignore Ethan’s brother, David, but she can’t—Ivy and Ethan aren’t comfortable going out on their own, so Chloe and David have to tag along. Soon Chloe, Ivy, David, and Ethan form a quirky and wholly lovable circle. And as the group bonds over frozen-yogurt dates and movie nights, Chloe is forced to confront her own romantic choices—and the realization that it’s okay to be a different kind of normal.

 

 

 

 

 

Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe (Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe #1) by Benjamin Alire Sáenz

Benjamin books are also precious own-voices that are incredibly diverse. His characters are Hispanic, immigrants and lgbtq. And, they are such a joy to read! The prose so beautiful, poetic and philosophical [Read my full review here].

Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe (Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe #1)
by Benjamin Alire Sáenz
4.35 · Rating details · 138,150 Ratings · 21,309 Reviews
Aristotle is an angry teen with a brother in prison. Dante is a know-it-all who has an unusual way of looking at the world. When the two meet at the swimming pool, they seem to have nothing in common. But as the loners start spending time together, they discover that they share a special friendship—the kind that changes lives and lasts a lifetime. And it is through this friendship that Ari and Dante will learn the most important truths about themselves and the kind of people they want to be.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Boy Erased: A Memoir by Garrard Conley

Even though this is not a love story is an emotional, heartbreaking story about dealing with sexual identity in a very religious upbringing. It’s becoming a movie this year. Don’t miss my review is coming up in June!

A beautiful, raw and compassionate memoir about identity, love and understanding.
The son of a Baptist pastor and deeply embedded in church life in small town Arkansas, as a young man Garrard Conley was terrified and conflicted about his sexuality.
When Garrard was a nineteen-year-old college student, he was outed to his parents, and was forced to make a life-changing decision: either agree to attend a church-supported conversion therapy program that promised to “cure” him of homosexuality; or risk losing family, friends, and the God he had prayed to every day of his life. Through an institutionalized Twelve-Step Program heavy on Bible study, he was supposed to emerge heterosexual, ex-gay, cleansed of impure urges and stronger in his faith in God for his brush with sin. Instead, even when faced with a harrowing and brutal journey, Garrard found the strength and understanding to break out in search of his true self and forgiveness.
By confronting his buried past and the burden of a life lived in shadow, Garrard traces the complex relationships among family, faith, and community. At times heart-breaking, at times triumphant, this memoir is a testament to love that survives despite all odds.

 

 

 

 

Other gender and sexuality diverse books [popular, lesser known and new releases]:

 

Reign of the Fallen (Reign of the Fallen #1) by Sarah Glenn Marsh

I loved how diverse this cast of characters was. Sarah wrote a world in which racial tensions are nonexistent (on that note, Kasmira is black, and while I’m unsure of Odessa’s race, she describes her skin as being a dark brown in the beginning), and heteronormativity is never mentioned once – Odessa is bisexual (own-voice rep), Meredy and Kasmira are both attracted to women, and Simeon and Danial are gay. I loved how completely normalized and casual the representation was! As a queer woman, I live for normalized rep, especially in fantasy novels. – Destiny ☠ howling libraries

Odessa is one of Karthia’s master necromancers, catering to the kingdom’s ruling Dead. Whenever a noble dies, it’s Odessa’s job to raise them by retrieving their souls from a dreamy and dangerous shadow world called the Deadlands. But there is a cost to being raised–the Dead must remain shrouded, or risk transforming into zombie-like monsters known as Shades. If even a hint of flesh is exposed, the grotesque transformation will begin.
A dramatic uptick in Shade attacks raises suspicions and fears among Odessa’s necromancer community. Soon a crushing loss of one of their own reveals a disturbing conspiracy: someone is intentionally creating Shades by tearing shrouds from the Dead–and training them to attack. Odessa is faced with a terrifying question: What if her necromancer’s magic is the weapon that brings Karthia to its knees?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Star-Crossed, by Barbara Dee

What I love most about Star-Crossed is that it doesn’t complicate Mattie’s feeling. Mattie recently had a crush on a boy, and now she has a crush on a girl. Some of her friends try to comment on that (Can you like boys and girls? Is she gay now?) but Mattie avoids any attempt to label herself. She’s only in grade eight, and all she knows for now is that she has a crush on a girl (and that doesn’t mean she can’t have a crush on a boy). I imagine at that age, when you’re just figuring things out, it’s not necessary to come away with a concrete definition of your sexual or romantic identity. – Jenna (Falling Letters)’s

Mattie is chosen to play Romeo opposite her crush in the eighth grade production of Shakespeare’s most beloved play in this Romeo and Juliet inspired novel from the author of Truth or Dare.
Mattie, a star student and passionate reader, is delighted when her English teacher announces the eighth grade will be staging Romeo and Juliet. And she is even more excited when, after a series of events, she finds herself playing Romeo, opposite Gemma Braithwaite’s Juliet. Gemma, the new girl at school, is brilliant, pretty, outgoing—and, if all that wasn’t enough: British.
As the cast prepares for opening night, Mattie finds herself growing increasingly attracted to Gemma and confused, since, just days before, she had found herself crushing on a boy named Elijah. Is it possible to have a crush on both boys AND girls? If that wasn’t enough to deal with, things backstage at the production are starting to rival any Shakespearean drama! In this sweet and funny look at the complicated nature of middle school romance, Mattie learns how to be the lead player in her own life.

 

 

 

 

 

Dust (Jacob’s Ladder #1) by Elizabeth Bear

Ace rep: One of the MC’s was ace. At first I was a little leery because she used the word “celibate” and asexuality and celibacy aren’t the same things. But her feelings around asexuality and her orientation did seem to align with asexuality rather than just chosen celibacy. There’s also a point where another character suggests that the ace character get ‘fixed’ and immediately realizes how ignorant that sounds and apologizes, which I liked. – Alex review at Goodreads

On a broken ship orbiting a doomed sun, dwellers have grown complacent with their aging metal world. But when a serving girl frees a captive noblewoman, the old order is about to change….
Ariane, Princess of the House of Rule, was known to be fiercely cold-blooded. But severing an angel’s wings on the battlefield—even after she had surrendered—proved her completely without honor. Captive, the angel Perceval waits for Ariane not only to finish her off—but to devour her very memories and mind. Surely her gruesome death will cause war between the houses—exactly as Ariane desires. But Ariane’s plan may yet be opposed, for Perceval at once recognizes the young servant charged with her care.
Rien is the lost child: her sister. Soon they will escape, hoping to stop the impending war and save both their houses. But it is a perilous journey through the crumbling hulk of a dying ship, and they do not pass unnoticed. Because at the hub of their turning world waits Jacob Dust, all that remains of God, following the vapor wisp of the angel. And he knows they will meet very soon.

 

 

 

 

Girls Made of Snow and Glass, by Melissa Bashardoust

Lynet is the sheltered princess. Unlike Snow White, Lynet was vert close to her stepmother, Mina. Even to the point of preferring her over her deceased mother, Emilia. She is brave, driven by her heart, and reminded me so much of Merrida from Brave! Such a headstrong character who went for what she wanted. AND ALSO SHE IS QUEER!!!!!!!!!! I loved that about her. We get to see her explore her sexuality because all her life she had only known of romantic relationships between men and women. BUT SUCK IT SOCIETY, LYNET CAN DO WHATEVER THE HELL SHE WANTS. – Nikki (Book Allure)

Frozen meets The Bloody Chamber in this feminist fantasy reimagining of the Snow White fairytale
At sixteen, Mina’s mother is dead, her magician father is vicious, and her silent heart has never beat with love for anyone—has never beat at all, in fact, but she’d always thought that fact normal. She never guessed that her father cut out her heart and replaced it with one of glass. When she moves to Whitespring Castle and sees its king for the first time, Mina forms a plan: win the king’s heart with her beauty, become queen, and finally know love. The only catch is that she’ll have to become a stepmother.
Fifteen-year-old Lynet looks just like her late mother, and one day she discovers why: a magician created her out of snow in the dead queen’s image, at her father’s order. But despite being the dead queen made flesh, Lynet would rather be like her fierce and regal stepmother, Mina. She gets her wish when her father makes Lynet queen of the southern territories, displacing Mina. Now Mina is starting to look at Lynet with something like hatred, and Lynet must decide what to do—and who to be—to win back the only mother she’s ever known…or else defeat her once and for all.
Entwining the stories of both Lynet and Mina in the past and present, Girls Made of Snow and Glass traces the relationship of two young women doomed to be rivals from the start. Only one can win all, while the other must lose everything—unless both can find a way to reshape themselves and their story.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Queen of Ieflaria (Tales of Inthya #1), by Effie Calvin

A love story between the two pansexual princesses!

Okay now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, on to the review! The first thing that called to me when I saw this book was the cover. It’s beautiful. I’m so happy that the story with in it matches the cover. Two princesses falling in love? Yes please! – Ashley’s Reviews

Princess Esofi of Rhodia and Crown Prince Albion of Ieflaria have been betrothed since they were children but have never met. At age seventeen, Esofi’s journey to Ieflaria is not for the wedding she always expected but instead to offer condolences on the death of her would-be husband.
But Ieflaria is desperately in need of help from Rhodia for their dragon problem, so Esofi is offered a new betrothal to Prince Albion’s younger sister, the new Crown Princess Adale. But Adale has no plans of taking the throne, leaving Esofi with more to battle than fire-breathing beasts.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Brokeback Mountain (Wyoming Stories), by Annie Proulx

Normally, I would never read something like this. No, I am not homophobic (my older brother is gay); but I do get uncomfortable when reading about two men kissing. So, needless to say, I wasn’t expecting much from this very short novella.

Let me be the first to say how utterly wrong I was. This novella is not merely about two men who fall in love; it is about love itself. The love story these men share is intense, stormy, beautiful, and heart-wrenching, and I found myself thankful that I have only ever loved one woman my entire life–I duped her into marrying me later–and, therefore, have never had my heart broken. – TK421

Annie Proulx has written some of the most original and brilliant short stories in contemporary literature, and for many readers and reviewers, “Brokeback Mountain” is her masterpiece.
Ennis del Mar and Jack Twist, two ranch hands, come together when they’re working as sheepherder and camp tender one summer on a range above the tree line. At first, sharing an isolated tent, the attraction is casual, inevitable, but something deeper catches them that summer.
Both men work hard, marry, and have kids because that’s what cowboys do. But over the course of many years and frequent separations this relationship becomes the most important thing in their lives, and they do anything they can to preserve it.
The New Yorker won the National Magazine Award for Fiction for its publication of “Brokeback Mountain,” and the story was included in Prize Stories 1998: The O. Henry Awards. In gorgeous and haunting prose, Proulx limns the difficult, dangerous affair between two cowboys that survives everything but the world’s violent intolerance.

And Playing the Role of Herself, by K.E. Lane

There are plenty of common lesfic themes addressed in APTROH, including assumptions of who’s straight, career risks of coming out, family and friends’ viewpoints and acceptances, fear of rejection, and…best of all…anticipation of that first kiss…and the first time enjoying full-on, skin-to-skin fun! – Kara

Actress Caidence Harris is living her dreams after landing a leading role among the star-studded, veteran cast of 9th Precinct, a hot new police drama shot on location in glitzy LA. Her sometimes-costar Robyn Ward is magnetic, glamorous, and devastatingly beautiful, the quintessential A-List celebrity on the fast-track to super-stardom. When the two meet on the set of 9th Precinct, Caid is instantly infatuated but settles for friendship, positive that Robyn is both unavailable and uninterested. Soon Caid sees that all is not as it appears, but can she take a chance and risk her heart when the outcome is so uncertain?

 

 

 

 

 

 

And of course we can’t forget a the classics of “Eros Love”! Here a two popular classics:


The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Milan Kundera, Michael Henry Heim

I love the way this novel portrays love. It recognizes and represents its beauty while at the same time showing how psychological and manipulative it can be. The loves in this novel are accurate ones, not at all cheapened by gimmicky slogans or conventional lines. “The dance seemed to him a declaration that her devotion, her ardent desire to satisfy his every whim, was not necessarily bound to his person, that if she hadn’t met Tomas, she would have been ready to respond to the call of any other man she might have met instead.”  – Ben

In The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Milan Kundera tells the story of a young woman in love with a man torn between his love for her and his incorrigible womanizing and one of his mistresses and her humbly faithful lover. This magnificent novel juxtaposes geographically distant places, brilliant and playful reflections, and a variety of styles to take its place as perhaps the major achievement of one of the world’s truly great writers.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana, by Mallanaga Vātsyāyana

Great book on society and culture and sex…in that order. Not even 100 pages are explicitly dedicated to intercourse. More of the book is talking about what is acceptable in various cultures at that time. – Amanda Spacaj-Gorham

Sir Richard F. Burton’s translation of The Kama Sutra remains one of the best English interpretations of this early Indian treatise on politics, social customs, love, and intimacy. Its crisp style set a new standard for Sanskrit translation.
The Kama Sutra stands uniquely as a work of psychology, sociology, Hindu dogma, and sexology. It has been a celebrated classic of Indian literature for 1,700 years and a window for the West into the culture and mysticism of the East.
This Modern Library Paperback Classic reprints the authoritative text of Sir Richard F. Burton’s 1883 translation.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ludus

Ludus, meaning “game” in Latin, is used by those who see love as a desiring to want to have fun with each other, to do activities indoor and outdoor, tease, indulge, and play harmless pranks on each other. The acquisition of love and attention itself may be part of the game. Ludic lovers want to have as much fun as possible. When they are not seeking a stable relationship, they rarely or never become overly involved with one partner and often can have more than one partner at a time.  [source].

What book comes to your mind when you think about Ludus love?

Storge

Storge grows slowly out of friendship and is based more on similar interests and a commitment to one another rather than on passion. Storge is also familial love. There is a love between siblings, spouses, cousins, parents and children. [source]. A great example of this kind of love is:

Wonder (Wonder #1, by R.J. Palacio

I loved August. His honesty, courage, ALL OF HIM. I loved August’s AWESOME family. His sister, his parents. So supportive and loving. I even loved the dog, Daisy. And I loved how this book plants seeds of empathy and compassion in the hearts of us readers, regardless of age. We all need to learn to feel AND show much more compassion and empathy for our fellow human beings. [see my full review here]

‘My name is August.
I won’t describe to you what I look like.
Whatever you’re thinking, it’s probably worse.’Ten-year-old August Pullman wants to be ordinary. He does ordinary things. He eats ice-cream. He plays on his Xbox. He feels ordinary – inside.But Auggie is far from ordinary. Born with a terrible facial abnormality, he has been home-schooled by his parents his entire life, in an attempt to protect him from the cruelty of the outside world. Now, Auggie’s parents are sending him to a real school. Can he convince his new classmates that he’s just like them, underneath it all?
Narrated by Auggie and the people around him whose lives he touches, Wonder is a frank, funny, astonishingly moving debut to be read in one sitting, pass on to others, and remember long after the final page.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Secondary types of love

Mania

Mania coming from the term manic leads a partner into a type of madness and obsessiveness. It is represented by the color purple, as it is a mix between ludus and eros. Some examples of this kind of love are these very controversial books:

Lolita, by Vladimir Nabokov

I feel like a mental midget in trying to explain my feelings about this book. I struggle to understand why it is considered such a classic piece of literature. Am I jaded by my own time? Have I heard too often the world “lolita” used in modern contexts to refer to young girls who are attractive to adult men who should know better? I had to delve into some literary criticism in order to help me understand, and I think what Lolita tries to do is tell a disguting story about a disgusting man using beautiful language. I think it also speaks to our modern day inclination to want to explain ourselves, as if we could absolve ourselves from the horrors of the crimes we commit if it is understood why we did it. Listening to the audiobook, although fabulously read by Jeremy Irons, probably meant that the language was lost on me for the most part. Instead I was left with the story of this self-described monster who destroys a child’s life and feels remorse only at losing her. Perhaps revolutionary in its storytelling at the time it was published, but too gross to read today. – Melissa

Humbert Humbert – scholar, aesthete and romantic – has fallen completely and utterly in love with Lolita Haze, his landlady’s gum-snapping, silky skinned twelve-year-old daughter. Reluctantly agreeing to marry Mrs Haze just to be close to Lolita, Humbert suffers greatly in the pursuit of romance; but when Lo herself starts looking for attention elsewhere, he will carry her off on a desperate cross-country misadventure, all in the name of Love. Hilarious, flamboyant, heart-breaking and full of ingenious word play, Lolita is an immaculate, unforgettable masterpiece of obsession, delusion and lust.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

All the Ugly and Wonderful Things: A Novel, by Bryn Greenwood

Oh. I this book gave me such an existential crisis. I liked and disliked it so much! It is a “love story” between two “broken beings” which could be very touching if it wasn’t because ONE of the beings was 20 something and the other one SEVEN when they met and he got obsessed with her! So, he is… A PEDOPHILE. [Read my full review here]

This is a contemporary version of Lolita that really got me upset. Read my review here https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/1839570881?book_show_action=false&from_review_page=1
As the daughter of a meth dealer, Wavy knows not to trust people, not even her own parents. Struggling to raise her little brother, eight-year-old Wavy is the only responsible “adult” around. She finds peace in the starry Midwestern night sky above the fields behind her house. One night everything changes when she witnesses one of her father’s thugs, Kellen, a tattooed ex-con with a heart of gold, wreck his motorcycle. What follows is a powerful and shocking love story between two unlikely people that asks tough questions, reminding us of all the ugly and wonderful things that life has to offer.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Siren (The Original Sinners #1), by Tiffany Reisz

I really liked The Siren. The writing is out of this world awesome and it is very sexually diverse. However, I always draw a line when it comes to pedophilia [read my full review here]

Some love stories you never forget. Some books will change your world. Be prepared… this is one of them. She tore herself from the man she adored, who transformed her, who possessed her… who would have destroyed her. Now she is adored by a man she must not have. She thinks she knows what it means to be pushed to her limits. She’s wrong.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Fifty Shades of Grey (Fifty Shades #1), by E.L. James

Oh Well. This is probably one of the most loved and hated erotic series of all time! I read the first book and I haven’t reviewed it yet because, well I need LOTSA time to write EVERYTHING I think about it!

This review [for Darker, the another book in this series] has 351 likes in Goodreads and 124 comments! I don’t agree 100% with the tone of the review but if you read the comments you learned the reasons why Kai dislike it so much, with which and I totally agree. I also wanted to featured this review because the comments also talk about whether or not this review is disrespectful, which I though was a very interesting topic for us Bookworms!

I’m against burning books.
People should have access to any book they want. I’m just not sure what people would use this book for? I hope they rip out the pages and blow their noses or wipe their private parts because – to be honest – it’s sad to see paper wasted like this, so at least they’re putting it to good use in the end.
P.S.: Toilet paper has a better plot though AND isn’t sexist so if you consider buying this or toilet paper always be safe and choose the latter. – Kai

When literature student Anastasia Steele goes to interview young entrepreneur Christian Grey, she encounters a man who is beautiful, brilliant, and intimidating. The unworldly, innocent Ana is startled to realize she wants this man and, despite his enigmatic reserve, finds she is desperate to get close to him. Unable to resist Ana’s quiet beauty, wit, and independent spirit, Grey admits he wants her, too—but on his own terms.
Shocked yet thrilled by Grey’s singular erotic tastes, Ana hesitates. For all the trappings of success—his multinational businesses, his vast wealth, his loving family—Grey is a man tormented by demons and consumed by the need to control. When the couple embarks on a daring, passionately physical affair, Ana discovers Christian Grey’s secrets and explores her own dark desires.
Erotic, amusing, and deeply moving, the Fifty Shades Trilogy is a tale that will obsess you, possess you, and stay with you forever.

 

 

 

 

Let’s talk!

What do you think of books with such controversial topics?

Did you find Kai’s review disrespectful?

 

Agape

Agape, the purest form of love, derives its definition of love from being altruistic towards one’s partner and feeling love in the acts of doing so. The person is willing to endure difficulty that arises from the partner’s circumstance. It is based on an unbreakable commitment and an unconditional, selfless love, that is all giving. It is an undying love that is full of compassion and selflessness. Agape love is often referenced with religious meaning and is signified by the color orange. An example of agape love is:

The Gift of the Magi, by O. Henry, Lisbeth Zwerger (Illustrator)

One dollar and eight-seven cents is all the money Della has in the world to buy her beloved husband a Christmas present. She has nothing to sell except her only treasure — her long, beautiful brown hair. Set in New York at the turn of the twentieth century, this classic piece of American literature tells the story of a young couple and the sacrifices each must make to buy the other a gift. Beautiful, delicate watercolors by award-winning illustrator Lisbeth Zwerger add new poignancy and charm to this simple tale about the rewards of unselfish love.

 

 

 

 

 

Let’s talk!

What other books you know that are about unconditional, selfless love, that is all giving?

Pragma

Lee defines pragma as the most practical type of love, not necessarily derived out of true romantic love. Rather, pragma is a convenient type of love. Pragmatic lovers have a notion of being of service which they perceive to be rational and realistic. While they may be sincere about being useful themselves it also translates to also having expectations in a partner and of the relationship.. A good example of pragmatic love is:

Pride and Prejudice, by Jane Austen

“It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife.” So begins Pride and Prejudice, Jane Austen’s witty comedy of manners—one of the most popular novels of all time—that features splendidly civilized sparring between the proud Mr. Darcy and the prejudiced Elizabeth Bennet as they play out their spirited courtship in a series of eighteenth-century drawing-room intrigues. Renowned literary critic and historian George Saintsbury in 1894 declared it the “most perfect, the most characteristic, the most eminently quintessential of its author’s works,” and Eudora Welty in the twentieth century described it as “irresistible and as nearly flawless as any fiction could be.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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